Single Valentine

Written by Empress Magazine /// Find in Love, Sex, Etc

Single Valentine? I guess that is what I would be considered. I’m not in a loving relationship or dating “that guy”. I’m basically living in a world where love isn’t hard to come by, so they say.  I’m surrounded by relationships. The majority of my friends (5 out of 7) have boyfriends they have been with for years.  One of my girlfiends from college is even engaged. So I figure finding a loving guy should be as easy as buying Wonder bread from the corner store, but for me it hasn’t been as such.

I’ve been dating for a while. I’ve dated them all, from the professional types to the hustlers, yet I haven’ met him. I’ve been close but not close enough. Something always goes wrong. Since I am the common denominator, maybe it’s “ME”. Sike! I take credit for having something to do with it but I think I have chosen some wrong guys or maybe I just didn’t put the effort in.

Ladies, you ever wonder why some of your friends always have a man and you don’t? Well, maybe she’s willing to go the extra mile for a guy with many flaws. She sticks around long enough to see him change (wait, do they ever really change? That’s a topic for another day. Ha.) or she just decided to settle. Will we ever know? Or maybe she has the girlfriend ‘gene’. I believe that some women are built with a gene that will always make or keep them a girlfriend. Some of us have it some of us don’t. Me, I’m still trying to figure it out (again, that is another topic).

I love LOVE and think it is a beautiful thing. I even love LIKE. To have something special and sacred that only two people share is a great thing. So instead of looking at the downside of being out of love on Valentine’s day, I think of it as another day, another opportunity to just chill at home and watch comedies and maybe take a sip here or there.

So this Valentine’s Day like many others, mama won’t be dining out or getting surprise flowers sent to my apartment. Even when I had a boo, I didn’t get ish. Can you believe it? So being alone on Valentine’s DAY is no biggie. After the 2^nd one, you’re pretty much over it. Plus, I want my man to do special things for me on a random Wednesday instead of waiting for a day to show me how much I mean to him. The only time we exchange gifts shouldn’t be on Christmas, my/his birthday and Valentine’s Day.

If you are a single girl come February 14^th, embrace it. You will probably miss your singleness when you got a man or even family. Trust me, my girlfriends tell me how sometimes they miss being single and dating random guys (but you know they only say that when they are going through relationship woes…lol). So grab your favorite book, watch a movie or just chill this Valentine’s Day. Don’t worry its just another day. DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE!