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Any YBR woman knows that image is important and that any plan geared toward business success should include provisions on how you present yourself. It is for this reason that I try really hard to put my best foot forward and look my best as much as possible. Keeping in line with this, I decided recently t…
Good Afternoon My Fellow Empresses,
You are cordially invited on Friday, May 23 to celebrate my 25th birthday at Duvet located 45 W. 21 Street between 5th and 6th Avenues. There's complimentary admission: B4 12am for the ladies and B4…
Posted by Chocolate Empress on May 5th, 2008 at 1:16pm — No Comments
Yeah you read the title, I was back in Miami for the second time in one month. It was super cool, super relaxing and all around amazing. While my first trip was with my homies my 2nd trip was with my other homie a.k.a my significant other.
Both trips were fun and both were different but overall Miami is the place for me to be. I don't think I will ever get tired of that place.
All and all I love my life and am truly blessed to be able to pull a 2 time South Beach get-a-way in on…
Posted by J on May 5th, 2008 at 12:15am — 3 Comments
While I was cruising the net I saw this youtube video that has probably been on the net for ages but this is the first time I'm seeing it.
I just posted a video on the Social Club about a 7 year old boy who stole his grandmother’s car and went joyriding with it with another 7 year old. He wasn't really remorseful and seemed a little aggravated that he was being questioned by the reporter (lol...not funny but it did make me giggle). I mean what the hell is wrong with these kids, it se…
Posted by Sha on May 4th, 2008 at 9:32pm — No Comments
Up until recently I had been going through a little rough patch. I began to feel disinterested in hanging out with my friends, my mood swings began to affect my loved ones, and I just felt like giving up on all of the goals that I set for myself this year. At first, I thought it was a simple case of the Winter Blues, but after about 2 months of this, I realized that it was something much bigger than that.
After a trip with my girls to Miami- all of my emotions came to a head. Here I wa…
Posted by Alecia D. on April 23rd, 2008 at 8:42pm — 3 Comments
So I'm back. I mean, I really haven't gone anywhere but
I mean back with my blurb...haha. If you haven't
noticed we haven't done one in a while :/. So what's
been going on with me, you might ask. Well my 25th
Birthday just passed and it will definitely be one for
the record books. My great girlfriends surprised me
with a weekend trip to South Beach, now how cool is…
Did you miss us? Hopefully you did and hopefully you noticed that we did not send out a weekly newsletter last week, lol. It was Shaleia’s 25th bday last week and as a surprise my friends and I took her to Miami. For a whole 3 months we had to ke…
Posted by J on April 13th, 2008 at 6:34pm — 2 Comments
Went out to a lounge last Saturday night with one of my homegirls and her date. Not as a third-wheel type of deal, but we haven't seen each other in a while so we took the opportunity to hang out. It's also where my honey works, so I was excited to see both her and him.
While we were there, my homegirl and I were talking, and this guy approaches us and interrupts our conversation with a, "Hello ladies, how are you doing? ("We're fine, thank you")..."You ladies having a good time?" ("Yup…
Hello All!
I'm going to attempt to keep this blog sweet, short, and straight to the point. I really want tickets to the BET Awards show this year, but cannot find anyone who has tickets or does booking for the show? Ladies, any help?
Posted by Lady J on March 30th, 2008 at 10:53pm — 9 Comments
I was watching one of those lifetime movies and this woman had to choose between her "boring but nice" husband who loved her whom she had known for 15years and her new "exciting but erratic" lover who she was falling in love with. Basically the good vs the bad guy. Then it got me thinking if it were you, what would you do?
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Posted by J on March 24th, 2008 at 5:33pm — 3 Comments
Hi Fellow Empresses!!!
I hope everyone had a great Easter..I have something that I want to share which had me truly bugging the other day..About 2 weeks ago, I met someone new who is very attractive,educated, has a good steady job. I am looking forward to know more about him he seems like a cool person and I cant find anything wrong with him yet..But I'm bugging because he shares the same birthday as my soon to be ex-husband girlfriend..And to top that off on Halloween...What???I'm…
Posted by BrinaNY on March 24th, 2008 at 4:08pm — 3 Comments
Posted by Lady J on March 18th, 2008 at 8:19am — 4 Comments
I hope you were able to check out my article today on Empressmag.com- if you were able to, you know that one of ingredients in the recipe for becoming a trailblazer is to find a mentor. It’s always easier to jump into a new field if you have someone there to guide…
Posted by Alecia D. on March 10th, 2008 at 9:05pm — 1 Comment
I miss that feeling. I’ve been missing it for so long that I actually learned how to live without it, breathe without it, laugh, dance and sing without it. Yet now that I have taken a moment to relax and hum I realize that all of the life and love was gone. There was nothing real standing behind it because that feeling was gone. Every day is now categorized by email messages and cell phones. Electronic hugs and well wishes and I know now that I…
Posted by Brandelyn on March 9th, 2008 at 1:30am — 1 Comment
Current Track: Emily King - "U & I"
So I'll begin explaining my story with a beautiful poem that I stumbled upon when I was in high school. It was on some folded up piece of paper in my brother's room, but when I read it, it spoke to me....so I've kept it with me ever since then. I don't know who the author was, but whoever did write it can empathize with the feelings I've got going on right now....here it is
"The first time that you see him, he will look into your dee…
Cheers to my liberation...To liberate means to free..Release from Restraint or bondage...And I am finally checked into rehab, because I know that my love for him still is my disease.. Writing is my therapy, it my chemo..And I am going to keep writing and sharing my disease with the world unitl there no traces of my disease left...We all know that there is always a possiblity after chemo that It will come back and it has, I have been fighting this disease since 2005. Withdrawl and putting up w…
Posted by BrinaNY on March 5th, 2008 at 11:41am — 2 Comments
Here's another good article from Zenhabits.net
http://zenhabits.net/2008/02/20-money-hacks-tips-and-tricks-to-improve-your-finances/#more-658
Posted by Alecia D. on March 5th, 2008 at 6:30am — No Comments
This is my first post, but it won't be the only one. I have this interesting and dynamic relationship with man I've known for a good while (the reason why I'm half single and half taken)....after trying to post questions to my friends after a while, their answers start to become a bit stale. So Empresses (and Emperors)...I'll be calling out to you for your opinions and I welcome them all -- even if they need to be brutally honest.
I'm not really used to opening up to such a public circu…
Is going so GREAT! I have a new-do, a new look on life, a new wardrobe and new associates/friends. I am going to enjoy 2008. Enjoy it with me :-) *Lite Brite*
Posted by *Lite Brite* on March 4th, 2008 at 4:07pm — 5 Comments
"I'm so busy looking for God in people
I miss the bright yellow
Diamond shaped street signs
Hanging from their necks that caution
Devil straight ahead."
…
Posted by Brandelyn on March 3rd, 2008 at 3:55pm — 1 Comment
Yesterday I had a little jam session in my garage and I created and started to sing a song called..My kids are the greatest..I had no pen or paper I just started singing from my heart..The idea is still fresh in my head and hopefully I can make it to a studio and lay down the tracks, get it published and shop it around for other artists to perform and make some money..
Until the next time..
later..Sabrina..
Posted by BrinaNY on March 3rd, 2008 at 11:51am — No Comments
My problem is that I still love him...My problem is that no matter on how much I know that he is in love with another female I still want him..My problem is that I know he is lying to me, I know the truth about everything and I despite everything I know, despite that I know we are no longer with eachother even though were still legally married, despite that I know that he is using me becuase he has no where to go..I still love him...I have a huge muthafuckin problem and I dont know how to deal w…
Posted by BrinaNY on March 3rd, 2008 at 11:12am — 6 Comments
With the climate of our nation's economy the way it is and the ever present threat of a disappearing middle class, it is becoming more and more important for us to take control of our financial futures. Everytime I have a talk with friends about this topic, someone inevitably makes the comment that it would be easier to plan and take control of their finances if they had more.. finances. While on the surface that may sound like a logical thought, I've learned that as contr…
Posted by Alecia D. on March 2nd, 2008 at 3:34pm — 1 Comment
Ok so I had to make a post about this because I was watching anotther one of the many programmes that come on UK TV about loosing weight and body image and all that kinda stuff.
The shows about the usual getting people to slim down etc. but there was one section that really bugged me, it was a woman who thought that women needed to slim down the size of their behinds and it just got me thinking. My mind went to some of the younger Black females that may have been watching it and I wond…
Posted by Neekay on March 2nd, 2008 at 1:03pm — No Comments
My friend told me that black men just played her too much. She said "When they saw my house and my car they would get intimidated. They treat white girls or latino girls better and if they're not intimidated by your success then they want you to pay for everything and support them and the list goes on and on..She also said, If she did meet a wonderful black man, who's educated, classy, etc., they only date white chicks. So you just can't win...."
Ladies and Gents..Do you find this…
Posted by BrinaNY on March 2nd, 2008 at 12:02am — 7 Comments
Im kinda new to this whole blog idea so I just wanted to get the first post up and go from there.
I'm just here to give you a insight into what's going on over here in 'sunny' old England! I a huge music fan so much of m y posts will probably have something to do with that but I also find myslef getting in daily debates with my friends & family about life as a whole and our community over here.
So I'll be talking about a whole wide range of things.
Posted by Neekay on March 1st, 2008 at 12:00pm — No Comments
I know we've all been there... in the middle of nowhere. Stuck somewhere between a rock and a hard place and feeling like all of our efforts are in vain. Whether you recall being in a bad relationship for a day, month, or year longer than w…
Posted by Alecia D. on February 26th, 2008 at 10:34pm — No Comments
A few months ago, Essence Magazine did this thing where they had celebrity women write a letter to their younger selves, giving them advice about how to handle the mistakes they will eventually make and words of wisdom from their older selves. This morning, for some odd reason, I felt the need to pick up one of my old journals. The first page was dated July 18th, 1999, my 20th birthday. I kept talking about how excited…
Posted by Brandelyn on February 25th, 2008 at 2:20pm — 2 Comments
How many things have you done over the course of your life that you now look back on and think "What the hell was I thinking"? If you're like me, then you probably have a pretty lengthy list. If this is the case, don't fret. If you're in a different place now than you were when you were committing these less than perfect acts that you would now like to forget, then you should be grateful that you were able to see your way out of each situation. If you are still in this place, just think how s…
Posted by Alecia D. on February 23rd, 2008 at 12:17pm — No Comments
While listening to a song called "Online",
I realized that the singer is oh so right."Online"
we really get a chance to shine{shine,meaning
that we get a chance to show our talents}.
We can conversate more freely,we can approach
people more freely,and most of all we can be
ourselves more freely.Yes,just being "online"
sometimes helps you to feel more relaxed.Maybe
that's why we tend to shine better
"online."We can do many of the things "online"
that…
Posted by garryblanson on February 23rd, 2008 at 3:05am — No Comments
Just the other day,I was talking to my kids
about " Black History."While we were discussing
some of the things the people had to endure,my
daughter asked a wonderful question.She asked
why did they do all that marching,the sit-ins;and
yes,even the lynchings. The answer was plain
and oh so simple.I told her they did it for the,
" Rights and Privileges."
That's when our attention turned to the United
States Constitution.To my surprise,they couldn'…
Posted by garryblanson on February 23rd, 2008 at 3:00am — No Comments
Just as I was about to call it a night,
I went and checked out my page on Empress :
http://www.empress-socialclub.com/profile/garryblanson.
I was happy to here some good-news from
one of our garryblanson.com community members
and a member of The Empress Social Club!
It was Shelia, aka (edagowa) of:
…
Posted by garryblanson on February 23rd, 2008 at 2:50am — No Comments
It's Black History Month and I'm so glad that
we still have books,pictures,and videos to remind
us all how bad it use to be. No wecan't brag about
how far we have come. However,we need to acknowledge
that there have been some advances. Mybloglog and
Empress is proof of the small steps we've made. Also,last
year's superbowl(two black head-coaches)shows us that
we are moving forward.However, when we look at our justice
system and…
Posted by garryblanson on February 23rd, 2008 at 2:28am — No Comments
As I was sitting down earlier today putting together my plan for the next few months I realized that I have alot of things to get done. I am finally on the cusp of accomplishing alot of the personal goals that I have set for myself. I'm at a place where I can either get to the next level from where I am or fizzle in a downward spiral. Of course, because of the type of person I am I would love to move upwards from here, but I am realizin…
Posted by Alecia D. on February 18th, 2008 at 6:00am — 2 Comments
So after perusing through myspace yesterday I realized there are so many haters in the world. Once a friend of mine (who will probably want credit after this lol) said that most girls have captions (you know the words right above their profile pic) about other girls hating on them. As I went through myspace last night, she is correct. You are blasted with "This goes out to all those hater b****s in my life", "Haters Banned", "You can't be me so don't try it", and the list goes on forever. Oh an…
Posted by Sha on February 13th, 2008 at 7:33pm — 4 Comments
This could only happen to me….
Yesterday I was on the bus. I know that is usually enough said, but you won’t be disappointed with this story. So yesterday I was on the bus on my way into San Francisco for a meeting. I had exactly 45 minutes to get there from East Oaklan…
Posted by Brandelyn on February 13th, 2008 at 10:43am — 2 Comments
Today, I watched a clip from CNN and it featured Nas and his wife, Kelis. I really respected them and what they stood for. I appreciated the fact that they exemplified Black Love and the belief that when you love someone -you marry them. Anywho- I proceeded to watch the clip ( BELOW) and Nas, Kelis and the women he hired, had on shirts with the "N" word spelled out in Gold…
Posted by Karleen on February 11th, 2008 at 7:57pm — 5 Comments
So I have been doing yoga classes lately at my gym. I try to go 2x a week but sometimes I do slip up and miss a class. Finding yoga has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Not only is it about holding weird poses and breathing dee…
Posted by J on February 11th, 2008 at 9:59am — 3 Comments
It feels like I have been going out a lot this month. So many birthday events to attend it feels like I should I open my own damn club the way I've been in clubs these last two months...lol. I have been enjoying myself though. I remember when i first turned 21 and how I was in the club every weekend like clockwork. I guess it was the cheapest option when you don't have money. For females (sorry guys) you are usually free before a certain time, you can drink before going inside the club so you d…
Posted by Sha on February 10th, 2008 at 11:30pm — 3 Comments
Heyyyyy! It's so good to be back! I know it's been a while but I can truly say that I've been handling my business. My goal to quit my job by the end of this year is still in full effect. I know this won't happen until I begin to reap the benefits of all my future business deals- but I am definitely beginning to take the necessary first steps! Among other things, I've finally figured out that I'm ready to go to Business School. I start studying for GMAT's next week. I am ready for the strenuous…
Posted by Alecia D. on February 7th, 2008 at 8:31pm — 1 Comment
Posted by Brandelyn on February 7th, 2008 at 10:57am — 2 Comments
Posted by J on February 4th, 2008 at 10:56am — 4 Comments
First I want to give a shout out to my homie Big J. We did it up this weekend and it was excellent. We definitely had a great time and it made me realize even more how great my girlfriends are.
Shu Stylz by Mimi is hosting an online Shu Party!!
Everyone is invited and anyone can attend.
All you need is your computer and your debit/credit card.
At this party, you will receive special discounts and sneak peeks at new styles.
Ladies, treat yourself for Valentine's or invite your man and show him what gifts you really want.
Men, why not attend, and suprise her with the latest in Shu Stylz.
The date is February 9, 2008 at 3pm est…
Posted by Mimi on January 29th, 2008 at 2:10pm — No Comments
Have you ever wanted something so bad you could taste it? I mean, you think about it when you wake up, all day long, and before you go to bed? This is the way I feel about Owning My Life! Instead of feeling like the slave to my paycheck in corporate america I want to feel like the master of my own existence. I can already FEEL what it feels like, I can TASTE it, I can SEE it.
One of the best motivators for human action is pain. Pleasure is usually never a motivator to change one's acti…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 28th, 2008 at 10:03pm — No Comments
”Self ” is talking, what a fascinating topic.
Especially when everyone considers you weird
or crazy if you are seen publicly talking to
yourself.Well, what about when “self ”
publicly talks to you.You know like when
someone asks you if you would like to play a
game that you really want to play,but” self “starts
talking to you and you say;that’s okay I’ll just
watch.What about when you wanted to apply for
that top position.…
Posted by garryblanson on January 27th, 2008 at 10:19pm — 5 Comments
WHEN I quit my job.. this is what I would love my day to look like. This is what helps me cope with the fact that I have to wake up every morning at 5:30 am and work 13 hours doing a job in an industry that I hate..
9:00 am- wake up, grab a small breakfast
9:30- stretch, meditate
10:00- work out
11:30- shower, get dressed
12:30- grab lunch
1:00- work on my website, handle business affairs for my company, write my book, handle business, etc
6:00…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 25th, 2008 at 6:00am — 4 Comments
So remember... our goal to be O.U.T by age X (for me it's 30, for you it can be 18, 40, 65) Keeping this in mind I have come up with a structure to begin the thought process for that great day when I will be able to turn in my letter of resgnation.
Step 1: Define the goal
The goal is to no longer need to work my 9-5 (or let's be real- my 8-8). Currently the only reason I am there is so that I can pay my bills. This means that as soon as I find an alternative for…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 24th, 2008 at 6:00am — No Comments
Love is so complicated. Relationships are so complicated. Heck, this world is sooo complicated. At the end of it all is LOVE enough to keep a relationship going? When is it time to let go and move on?
Posted by J on January 23rd, 2008 at 9:55am — 6 Comments
Who doesn't want money?? Seriously-- who doesn't? Whether you want a little- just enough to make ends meet and have a little left over for savings and modest travel or you want a lot- enough to make ends meet for your children and grandchildren and more than enough left over for 3 month get aways to the Carribbean. We all want it. That's a given. But how do we get it?? With a recession looming over our country's economy and working wages for college grads becoming more and more un-exciting, i…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 23rd, 2008 at 6:00am — No Comments
I was re-watching the series finale of Sex and the City last night and the scene where "Big" goes to Paris to find Carrie and bring her back to New York really struck a cord with me. It was when she was wandering the street trying to find a cab and he was in a cab trying to find her. They were standing within arm's reach of each other but neither would look in the other's direction. Carrie and Big were so close to each other- so close to finally finding happiness but were both facing…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 22nd, 2008 at 6:00am — 4 Comments
On the surface, it's so easy to make judgments about a person's life based on what we see. They drive a nice car, live in a nice house, and are always surrounded by great people.. so they must be happy, right? Or they live with modest means and can't enjoy the comfort of luxury- so they must be depressed? Not necessarily. As I am continuing to attain higher heights of success and maturity, I am learning an important lesson. As cliche as it may be, the old saying- "you can't judge a book by it…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 21st, 2008 at 9:09am — 3 Comments
So I subscribed to this site that sends me weekly emails about being successful, happy, etc. It talks a lot about going with the flow of things and all that you want will become reality b/c the universe is…
Posted by J on January 17th, 2008 at 3:22pm — 2 Comments
Check out this post from Zenhabits.net.
http://zenhabits.net/2008/01/a-guide-to-cutting-back-when-you-feel-overwhelmed/#more-613
Until tomorrow...
Posted by Alecia D. on January 17th, 2008 at 2:04pm — 1 Comment
What if you were walking down the street on a beautiful Sunday morning and saw a woman looking intently into the eyes of her pet. She was cooing it and petting it and just so engrossed into what she was doing. You would think either a- this woman has too much time on her hands and must really, really love her pet or b- aww.. How cute and nice to have to an animal to care for that you love so much. Either way there wouldn't be anything that strange about t…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 16th, 2008 at 12:16pm — 2 Comments
I realized today that everything I feel my life is missing can be obtained through paying attention to the purer things in life and striving for living an existence full of simplicity. So many times I am so bogged down with all of the clutter of my day that I don't even take the time to realize what's really going on around me. From the moment I wake up, I turn on to CNN, on my way to the subway in the mornings- I’m listening to some radio show or other. While I'm at the gym I’…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 15th, 2008 at 8:09pm — 1 Comment
COME OUT TO STRATA THE NEW EXPERIENCE FOR THE 08
Posted by BIGEVZ on January 14th, 2008 at 10:14pm — No Comments
It's monday afternoon friends- and we are only 4 days away from another wonderful weekend break!! Whoo hoo! Instead of wallowing in my daydreams about what it will be like when I am finally O.U.T (see http://www.empress-socialclub.com/profiles/blog/show?id=1434556%3ABlogPost%3A2307 ), I've decided to get my plan together in order to ENSURE that I am READY when the time comes- 6 years really does fl…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 14th, 2008 at 3:55pm — No Comments
Monday's are the worst day of the week- I almost cry when it's time to get up
Tuesdays are a little better- even though I'm still like What The F...
Wednesdays are the hump days- take it in every sense of the word
Thursdays take the longest to get over.. I find that so absurd
But fridays, oh snap, the fridays.. the day I look forward to the most of all
Oh Yes thank God it's friday- i'm off work finally and about to have a BALL!
-Alecia D.
Posted by Alecia D. on January 11th, 2008 at 9:31pm — No Comments
I know I am not alone is this feeling but why is it that every day of the work week except for Friday has me feeling like "BLAH!". I mean, I know why, obviously its because I know I have 2 full days of freedom from my job. But, there must be some kind of way to feel this feeling of elation and happiness every day of the week. When I wake up on Friday's I am happier and even more productive at work. How can I feel like this everyday of the work week? Is it even possible? Damn!
Posted by J on January 11th, 2008 at 10:11am — 4 Comments
It seems that everyday my boss/colleagues finds another way to make me more angry than they did the day before.. Urgh! How annoying is my work life.
I have personally declared Thursdays as the National Day of Anger!! I am going to use thursdays as the one day a week when I can be myself and allow myself to feel the way I want to feel. If my boyfriend makes me mad today- I'm going to slap him. If my boss asks me one more question- I'm going to roll my eyes at him, and if…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 10th, 2008 at 11:59am — 1 Comment
How many of you actually enjoy and love what you do for work? That is- look forward to waking up in the morning, skip all the way to the bathroom to get dressed, and smile the entire time you are on your two hour commute (one-way)?? Not many of you, huh? Believe me, I know the feeling. It is for this reason that I have come up with a sure-fire way to make sure that I am O.U.T by 30!
The path to "own ur time" by the time you reach 30 may seem like a daunting task, but it truly is not as…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 9th, 2008 at 10:08am — 1 Comment
Today I turn the big 2-4! I never actually thought I would be one of those people who get depressed at getting older, but I have to be honest and say that I am a bit annoyed that I am a year older. I am known for getting myself into less than perfect situations and blaming my decisions on the immaturity of youth..but how much longer can I truly use that excuse without looking like an idiot..;) I figure this may be the last year I can actually get away with it- and even that is a stretch becau…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 8th, 2008 at 1:31pm — 5 Comments
So it's really 7 days into the new year. 2008 is in full swing and it's time to get your goals into gear! Whether you set only 1 goal for yourself, 11..or 111- the bottom line is that it's time to get moving...
As I'm sitting in my room on my laptop on one of the rare occassions that I do not have to go in to work - I can't help thinking about all of the goals I've set for myself in 2008. I believe all of my goals came up to about 12 to be exact! Is that too many goals? Will I lose foc…
Posted by Alecia D. on January 7th, 2008 at 2:21pm — 3 Comments
I have a new blog site coming in January called Mocha's Loft. It's a place for young, black chicas to stay in the loop on beauty, fashion, events, restaurants, health, and most importantly EMPOWERMENT. The temporary site is at mochasloft.blogspot.com. Also visit, myspace.com/mochasloft.
Posted by Adrina on December 15th, 2007 at 10:20pm — 1 Comment
Shu Stylz by Mimi is celebrating Christmas with a 30 Days of Christmas Giveaway!
We are giving a pair of shus away everyday for 30 Days.
You do not want to miss out, to qualify, all you have to do make a purchase from my website.
There is no limit to how many times you can win.
To qualify now, shop at www.shustylzbymimi.com
Posted by Mimi on December 14th, 2007 at 11:26am —